<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[DR OM & Associates]]></title><description><![CDATA[Professional psychotherapy, intensive therapy, & wellness programmes. Find expert support to overcome life's hurdles for a fulfilling life.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 19 Jun 2026 19:28:56 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[The Power of Being Present: Why Your Presence Matters More Than You Think]]></title><description><![CDATA[One of the most powerful gifts a parent can offer is surprisingly simple: their presence.

Being present goes beyond simply being physically available. It means putting down the phone when your child wants to tell you about their day. It means making eye contact when they are speaking, listening without rushing to solve every problem, and creating moments where they feel genuinely seen, heard, and valued.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/the-power-of-being-present-why-your-presence-matters-more-than-you-think</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a311f6d655fbab8670f3fd9</guid><pubDate>Tue, 16 Jun 2026 10:06:38 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_6358ea25e86f444e86ef5975b0bd99ce~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_853,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Gloria Tay</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How Does Emotional Self-Sufficiency Affect Intimate Relationships ]]></title><description><![CDATA[We are conditioned to treat independence as an absolute virtue. 
But inside an intimate relationship, this performative dependability can backfire dramatically.
When you refuse to show your boundaries, your exhaustion, or your raw patches, you inadvertently push your partner away. 
]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/how-does-emotional-self-sufficiency-affect-intimate-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2a7e2244c7bef1d029a817</guid><category><![CDATA[Essence & Alignment]]></category><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2026 09:42:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_d477f57028b54e43b999a340581a2759~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Do Capable People Feel Lonelier Than Expected?]]></title><description><![CDATA[We are conditioned to think that loneliness means being alone. We look at a packed calendar, a thriving business, or an active social circle and assume that connection must follow naturally.

But in my practice, the deepest loneliness I observe is often found in the most capable people.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/why-do-capable-people-feel-lonelier-than-expected</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2a6450f8e7e84c72c1c7d4</guid><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Essence & Alignment]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2026 07:43:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_70b84a1dd453402f9e1bc247e871e5ea~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Early Attachment Patterns Influence How We Show Up For Our Adult Friendships ]]></title><description><![CDATA[The same motivational architecture that orchestrates the bond between a caregiver and child appears to quietly govern how adults form, sustain, and rupture their closest friendships. 
Higher anxiety or avoidance with parents predicted higher anxiety or avoidance with a best friend.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/early-attachment-patterns-influence-how-we-show-up-for-our-adult-friendships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a1ed2ee178961c786a35667</guid><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 09 Jun 2026 06:33:10 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_f7cb1fe3c53f4cb4a5ad128f22fe187c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_800,h_533,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Malancha</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Grief Nobody Warns You About: Grieving a Pet You Haven't Lost Yet]]></title><description><![CDATA[Anticipatory grief is often confusing because it may feel like the mourning has begun even before a loss. ]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/the-grief-nobody-warns-you-about-grieving-a-pet-you-haven-t-lost-yet</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a0d90708e0cce8d79c823e3</guid><category><![CDATA[Trauma Healing]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 29 May 2026 03:50:46 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_c2131b3ba7044c05ae33b3675cfc93a7~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_800,h_533,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Chitra</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How Do We Become Blind To Our Own Limits?]]></title><description><![CDATA[When we think about burnout, we tend to imagine a sudden collapse.  
But in the IET framework, we know that systems don’t fail out of nowhere. Burnout is a gradual process. It happens because we become complete strangers to our own limits.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/how-do-we-become-blind-to-our-own-limits</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a155c04b6bdb307fe72b548</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 26 May 2026 09:55:16 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_6bd3d3f037694c358ea7f8084945aa4c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Success Makes People Feel Worse]]></title><description><![CDATA[In my work with high-performers, I often see a recurring dilemma: the more successful they become, the more internal friction they feel. ]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/is-your-success-making-you-feel-worse</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a0c2440a233cf6a0520cbeb</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 19 May 2026 09:05:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_748bebf473554452b9f7be4c71452ef5~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When Your External Life Outpace Your Internal Life]]></title><description><![CDATA[For high-functioning individuals, there is often a profound split between the successful life they lead outside and the felt experience they carry within.

I often use the metaphor of "Two Gardeners" with my clients. ]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/when-your-external-life-outpace-your-internal-life</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a01a76f891eb8b8a9126c36</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><category><![CDATA[Essence & Alignment]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 11 May 2026 10:10:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_10bcd5a3a4984063b8c61bfe93297e8a~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Can't You Seem to Sit Still]]></title><description><![CDATA[For many high-achievers, we struggle to rest because our identity is built on a foundation of constant achievement. We have been conditioned to believe that being active is the only way to be valuable.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/why-can-t-you-seem-to-sit-still</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a01997c3dd48c2e9fa36fec</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><category><![CDATA[Essence & Alignment]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 11 May 2026 09:04:09 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_b5cc2007f22e42e799381ca7a1913887~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How Does Long-Term Self-Control Affect Emotional Vitality?]]></title><description><![CDATA[One of the most praised traits in high-achievers is self-control. We pride ourselves on our ability to stay steady while others are wavering.
But we have to look at what that regulation is doing to our essence.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/how-does-long-term-self-control-affect-emotional-vitality</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69f9800cb27e981e27c61779</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[High-Functioning]]></category><category><![CDATA[Essence & Alignment]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 05 May 2026 08:33:18 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_9f058451982c4d8d8cd1069fa461e68c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Which Version of You is The Real One?]]></title><description><![CDATA[It’s a common experience for high-functioning people: we look successful on paper, but we feel fragmented inside. We have become so good at adapting to everyone else’s needs that we’ve lost track of who we are when no one is watching.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/which-version-of-you-is-the-real-one</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69f0789cd3f2ae6dd9138b1c</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 28 Apr 2026 09:11:45 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_ec9ab00c5a4f448b9decc04aa28f554c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When Does Being "Easy to Work With" Become a Problem?]]></title><description><![CDATA[In the corporate world, being "low-maintenance" is a badge of honour.

But for many high-functioning individuals, this lack of friction isn't actually flexibility. It is a form of over-adjustment. ]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/when-does-being-easy-to-work-with-become-a-problem</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69e64fd0247930afa80444d2</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 20 Apr 2026 16:25:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_18c9a16fd3434ded8f0b4c2943d61320~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What Is The Hidden Cost of Fitting In?]]></title><description><![CDATA[We talk a lot about resilience and adaptability as the pillars of professional achievement.

 

But in my clinical work with high-performers, I’ve noticed that these "superpowers" often come at a staggering metabolic and psychological cost.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/what-is-the-hidden-cost-of-fitting-in</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69dc72f275afb0779a766015</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 14 Apr 2026 09:35:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_52c8f016cf6743029b7de815fb2f0875~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Has Your Competence Become a Mask?]]></title><description><![CDATA[The Competence Paradox. Your greatest professional strength is likely your deepest personal liability.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/has-your-competence-become-a-mask</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69dc70084760d48e5e9152f2</guid><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 13 Apr 2026 04:36:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_822ad1a8331a4d47b4d886b8884dd450~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Is Being Over Accommodating Damaging Long-Term?]]></title><description><![CDATA[In corporate environments, being "easy-going" is a badge of honour. We value the leaders who can pivot, adapt, and go with the flow.

But for the over-functioning  professional, "I don't mind" is often a symptom of a deeper crisis.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/why-is-being-accommodating-damaging-long-term</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69ccd98a535e7bcd2694601b</guid><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 01 Apr 2026 08:50:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_af5d9a11fd48478b82fed0266424e334~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When Self-Reliance Becomes Your Prison: Understanding the Hidden Costs]]></title><description><![CDATA[The corporate world rewards the problem solvers, the fixers, and the rocks who never seem to crumble under pressure.
But there is a hidden cost to being the person everyone comes to.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/why-do-high-functioning-people-delay-asking-for-help</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69c246a736a1fdc193bd9ac9</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 24 Mar 2026 08:22:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_92f40a7f977f4406bf715f2e9bedb5f5~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What’s the Difference Between Resilience and Endurance?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Often, what high-functioning people call resilience is actually just endurance.

The difference lies in the recovery. True resilience requires you to put the weight down once the crisis has passed so you can return to your centre.

Endurance is the normalisation of never putting the weight down. ]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/what-s-the-difference-between-resilience-and-endurance</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69b91902bae3e800161cd233</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 17 Mar 2026 09:42:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_f085c3a24ada41e998e719924bb1145c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Do So Many People Feel “Fine” But Not Fulfilled?]]></title><description><![CDATA[I want to completely remove the guilt you feel about this, because this emptiness is not a character flaw. It is a mechanical consequence of how you survive.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/why-do-so-many-people-feel-fine-but-not-fulfilled</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69b2958aa7843f58b6818a12</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2026 10:40:18 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_1c7904bb17eb4ce7a0f588727aaed76c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How Do People Become Disconnected From Their Own Needs?]]></title><description><![CDATA[If you struggle to feel your own needs, I want you to know one thing:
This was not a failure. It was a strategy.

You learned early on that your environment required Adaptation more than it welcomed your Authenticity.]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/how-do-people-become-disconnected-from-their-own-needs</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69afd925ce99be845a7f7196</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 10 Mar 2026 08:48:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_8ab7a87a966c4b43b2cb65ed3241264a~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why Insight Doesn't Automatically Lead to Change]]></title><description><![CDATA[One of the most common frustrations I hear from high-functioning clients is this:

"Oberdan, I know exactly why I do this. I can trace it back to my childhood. I understand the trigger. Why am I still doing it?"
The problem is that we are dealing with two different operating systems.

1. Your Intellect: wants truth, logic, and optimisation.
2. Your Nervous System: wants safety.
]]></description><link>https://www.psychotherapysingapore.com/post/why-insight-doesn-t-automatically-lead-to-change</link><guid isPermaLink="false">699ec31591604ab56c34323e</guid><category><![CDATA[IET]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self-Development]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 25 Feb 2026 09:45:52 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/86017e_cefbbf3196894947aecc033325622a94~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_924,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oberdan Marianetti</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>